Drew Barrymore, Jessica Alba, Jennifer Garner Talk Motherhood
For InStyle's 25thanniversary, a bevvy of celebs, including former InStyle cover stars Jennifer Aniston, Kerry Washington, Demi Moore, Kate Hudson, Michelle Pfeiffer, Reese Witherspoon, Cameron Diaz, Halle Berry, Drew Barrymore, Meg Ryan, Gwyneth Paltrow, Salma Hayek, Jennifer Garnerand Julianne Moore, sat down with the mag to discuss life, work, love and for many, motherhood.
Barrymore, Alba and Garner had some particularly poignant thoughts about the way motherhood changed them, and how the public's perception of them as actors changed once they became mothers.
Barrymore tells InStyle that her children Frankie, 5, and Olive, 7, changed her entire perspective, and how her style of parenting evolved over time. "When I had my first daughter, Olive, I was terrified all the time," she tells InStyle. "I wanted everything to be perfect. It's the most high-wire, high-stakes, scariest, beautiful, important thing you'll ever do. I couldn't sleep or eat. I've never cared so much about anything. I've got two daughters now, and they're very different. You realize this is about their journey, and you're there to keep them safe, keep them laughing and help them figure out who they want to be."
Alba, who first covered InStyle in June of 2007, reflects on how that milestone made her feel.
"It made me feel like I had finally arrived," Alba, now 38, shares. "I was a big fan of the magazine because it made high fashion feel accessible. By that time I'd been in the entertainment business for over a decade, but I was still trying to figure out how to be in the public eye and have ownership over who I was."
She adds, "Ninety percent of what people understood about me then came purely from magazine articles, press-tour interviews, and blurbs of gossip."
Since then, she has welcomed daughters Honor and Haven, and son Hayes, and they've changed her POV.
"For the first time in my life I was really embracing my womanhood," Alba says. "I was in my early 30s, and it had taken up until then for me to feel confident in my body. I also stopped allowing myself to be objectified in the press through a male's perspective. Screw that, man."
She tells readers, "It's OK to be sexy. It's OK to wear a short skirt or a loud print if I feel like it because I own it in my own way. I can flaunt what I want, cover what I want, and still feel good."
But she still has a sense a sense of humor: "I have three children. They've exploded my body, and I'm cool with it. laughs And I know I'm smart. I don't care what everybody else thinks. I'm good, girl. I'm good."
The 47-year-old Garner, who shares three children with her ex Ben Affleck, also opened up about the public's perception of her has changed.
"When you're one of the ‘hot girls' of the moment, you're making choices that define you," she explains. "I was defined first by choosing to go on hiatus, and then I was very quickly defined by pregnancies and babies. Now my choices are defined by different things."
She says she is fiercely protective over what people see about daughters Violet, 13, and Seraphina, 10, and son Samuel, 7.
"I guard my kids' privacy as much as I possibly can, and I've never posted pictures of them on Instagram," she says. "I'm sure there are times my kids would really love to see themselves reflected on social media in a fun way and to have the attention they would get from that. But I've fought too hard against it. It would feel hypocritical."
The 25th anniversary of InStyle is on sale Aug. 16.