Moby Apologizes Publicly To Natalie Portman
Moby apologized publicly this weekend for not warning actress Natalie Portman that he was writing about her in his memoir.
“It was truly inconsiderate of me to not let her know about her inclusion in the book beforehand, and equally inconsiderate for me to not fully respect her reaction,” the musician wrote in a message on Instagram. “I hate that I might have caused her and her family distress.”
In Then It Fell Apart, Moby recalled that he met Portman when he was 33 and she was 20. He flirted with him, he claimed, in his dressing room after a concert. He wrote: “For a few weeks I had tried to be Natalie’s boyfriend, but it hadn’t worked out. I thought that I was going to have to tell her that my panic was too egregious for me to be in a real relationship, but one night on the phone she informed me that she’d met somebody else. I was relieved that I’d never have to tell her how damaged I was.”
Portman recalled things differently. She told Harper’s Bazaar: “I was surprised to hear that he characterized the very short time that I knew him as dating because my recollection is a much older man being creepy with me when I just had graduated high school,” she explained. “He said I was 20; I definitely wasn’t. I was a teenager. I had just turned 18.”
Portman said she was a fan of Moby and went to one of his shows. “When we met after the show, he said, ‘Let’s be friends.’
“He was on tour and I was working, shooting a film, so we only hung out a handful of times before I realized that this was an older man who was interested in me in a way that felt inappropriate.”
Moby responded to Portman’s comments by doubling down. “We did, in fact, date,” he wrote on Instagram.
“I can’t figure out why she would actively misrepresent the truth about our (albeit brief) involvement. I completely respect Natalie’s possible regret in dating me (to be fair, I would probably regret dating me, too), but it doesn’t alter the actual facts of our brief romantic history.”
In his public apology, Moby admitted it was “inconsiderate” not to let Portman know ahead of time that she was mentioned in his book.
“Also I accept that given the dynamic of our almost 14 year age difference I absolutely should've acted more responsibly and respectfully when Natalie and I first met almost 20 years ago.,” he added.
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As some time has passed I've realized that many of the criticisms leveled at me regarding my inclusion of Natalie in Then It Fell Apart are very valid. I also fully recognize that it was truly inconsiderate of me to not let her know about her inclusion in the book beforehand, and equally inconsiderate for me to not fully respect her reaction. I have a lot of admiration for Natalie, for her intelligence, creativity, and animal rights activism, and I hate that I might have caused her and her family distress. I tried to treat everyone I included in Then It Fell Apart with dignity and respect, but nonetheless it was truly inconsiderate for me to not let them know before the book was released. So for that I apologize, to Natalie, as well as the other people I wrote about in Then It Fell Apart without telling them beforehand. Also I accept that given the dynamic of our almost 14 year age difference I absolutely should've acted more responsibly and respectfully when Natalie and I first met almost 20 years ago. Moby