Selena Gomez wants her fans to know that she’s in a good place these days — and one of the things making her happy is her relationship with Canada’s The Weeknd.
“It’s great. I don’t depend on one area of my life to make me happy. It’s really important for me to love and nourish my friends and family and to make sure that I never get influenced by a guy,” Gomez told InStyle. “I’ve wanted to be in a strong headspace for years, and I really wasn’t.
“Before, I was so young and easily influenced, and I’d feel insecure. You want someone to add to your life, not to complete you, if that makes sense. I’m lucky because he’s more of a best friend than anything else.”
Gomez said cancelling a tour last year to spend three months in treatment for depression and anxiety was “the best thing that I ever could’ve done.”
She recalled: “I had no phone, nothing, and I was scared. But it was amazing, and I learned a lot. Everything I cared about, I stopped caring about. I came out, and it felt like, ‘OK, I can only go forward.’ And there are still days. I go to therapy. I believe in that and talking about where you are. But I’m in a really, really healthy place.”
Active on social media, the singer said she struggles sometimes with the downsides of being so connected to strangers.
“It’s good to be connected, to see things, and to get a sense of what your friends are up to,” said Gomez. “But it also allows people to think they need to look or be a certain way.
“You have ugly people trying to get negative things from you, and the energy makes you feel bad about yourself. You can’t help it. It’s very hard to find out who you are during all that mess and pressure.”